The Finding Peace Podcast

When the Past Takes Over: Finding Peace After a Panic

In this episode, Troy L. Love shares a raw personal story of a panic attack that reconnects him to childhood wounds, showing how transference and the inner critic can amplify shame.
He reframes peace as the capacity to feel without collapsing, to stay connected, and to return to ourselves after being triggered, offering practical, trauma-informed guidance on responding with curiosity rather than self-judgment.
 
 
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When Peace Feels Dangerous: Healing Attachment Wounds

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools for moments when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs support.
In this episode, host Troy L. Love shares Sarah’s story to illustrate how healing attachment wounds can feel unfamiliar and even threatening — growth often registers as danger before it feels like freedom.
Learn brief, actionable practices to stay grounded, notice discomfort without reacting, and teach your nervous system to tolerate calm so peace can become a new normal.
 
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Who Am I When the Roles Fall Away?

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast presents practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. In this episode, host Troy L. Loved explores identity confusion—how trauma and survival roles (the politician, the martyr, the judge) shape who we become—and shares personal stories and the example of "Jason" to illustrate how we adapt by taking on roles.
Troy invites listeners to slow down, notice the shadows of shame, ask, "Who do I have to be to stay safe?", and gently reclaim their true self by creating internal and external safety. For more resources, visit FindingPeaceConsulting.com.
 
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When Shame Shows Up: The Shadows That Protect (and Sabotage) Us

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools you can use when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs support.
In this episode Troy L. Love shares a powerful ninth-grade story to show how shame started as protection, then explains the "shadows of shame" (the Judge, the Royal, the Politician, the Martyr, the Impotent One, and the Rebel) and offers practical steps—externalizing these voices, asking what wound they protect, thanking them, and choosing self-acceptance and compassion—to build shame resilience and find belonging
 
Previous Episode on the Shadows of Shame: https://thefindingpeacepodcast.podbean.com/e/the-shadows-of-shame-are-lousy-cheerleaders/
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When Control Is a Coping Strategy: Understanding the Martyr Within

Season 8 of Finding Peace explores how controlling behaviors often develop as nervous-system coping strategies rooted in attachment wounds.
This episode reframes control as information, offers simple questions and a practical practice to trace behavior back to unmet needs, and invites compassion over shame as the path to healing and safety.
 
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When Anger Became a Storm: From Suppression to Safety

Season 8 of Finding Peace offers short, trauma‑informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explores how childhood experiences can teach us to bury anger, the cost of suppressing emotions, and the difference between self‑control and self‑regulation.
He explains how anger is a signal that something matters, why regulation must come before responsibility, and offers gentle practices and questions to help you move from restraint to safety.
Choose compassion over control and remember you are worthy of love and belonging.
 
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When 'Yes' Hurts: Rewriting the Martyr's Story

Troy L. Love uses a personal wisdom-teeth story to expose the ‘martyr’ voice that drives overgiving and self-sacrifice. He explains trauma-informed boundaries as nervous-system–aware limits that protect connection without abandoning yourself.
 
This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.
 
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Beware the BRPEs: How Connection Restores Calm

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. Hosted by Troy L. Love, this episode explains why arguments often aren’t about the issue at hand but about nervous system survival.
Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity.
Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.
 
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When ‘Laziness’ Is Survival: The Hidden Power of Freezing

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and motivation fades.
Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected.
Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.
 
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When Safety Feels Uncertain: Understanding Hypervigilance

Host Troy L. Love explores how growing up with unpredictable anger trains the nervous system to stay on guard, and why hypervigilance is an adaptive response rather than a flaw.
He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.
 
 
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