The Finding Peace Podcast

Daniel in the Den of Shame Shadows

In this podcast episode, Troy Love walks Daniel through the Finding Peace Worksheet where Daniel delves into personal experiences and emotional wounds. Daniel discusses his struggles with feeling disconnected from his family of origin, particularly his father, following his parents' divorce. He shares his feelings of neglect and abandonment, which have contributed to a core belief that he's not enough. These beliefs have affected his relationships, causing insecurity and the fear of being a burden to others. Daniel also reflects on how these wounds have impacted his marriage and family life.
Troy helps Daniel identify the inner critical voice, the "Judge" that constantly berates him, and the "Martyr" that drives him to please others to avoid abandonment fears. They engage in exercises to confront and disarm these inner voices, ultimately empowering Daniel to reclaim his self-worth and heal his emotional wounds.
The episode highlights the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and personal beliefs and the process of addressing and transforming these internal struggles.
 
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Am I Enough?

The issue that Sher would like to find more peace and joy about revolves around her daughter's constant requests for financial assistance. Whenever she receives a text or call from her daughter, it triggers anxiety, fear, dread, and sadness because it usually means her daughter needs money. This situation has created a lack of peace for Sher for a long time because it reminds her of her childhood experiences of poverty, neglect, and abuse.
Sher's daughter's addiction and her requests for money bring up deep-seated wounds from her past, including feelings of abandonment, neglect, and not being good enough. She sees parallels between her daughter's behavior and her own experiences growing up, leading to betrayal, loss, and abuse. Sher also shared that her daughter had gone missing for several years while battling addiction, which added to her emotional turmoil.
Seeing her daughter's name on her phone triggers these painful emotions, and the core belief that gets activated for Sher is that she is not good enough. This belief stems from her childhood experiences of feeling unloved and unwanted, as she was adopted at a young age without anyone fighting to keep her.
The emotions that Sher experiences in response to her daughter's messages are primarily sadness and fear. She used to provide her daughter with financial support to ease her discomfort, but she realized she was doing it to soothe her emotions rather than address the underlying issues. Now, she's trying to establish boundaries and have conversations before providing financial assistance, but it remains challenging.
Sher's struggle with her daughter's situation also leads to shadows of shame, including feelings of rebellion, self-criticism, and powerlessness. The presence of grandchildren in the equation makes the situation even more complex and emotionally challenging for her.

Erika and the Shadows of Shame

In this conversation between Erika (not her real name) and Troy Love, Erika discusses her struggle to relax and rejuvenate. She acknowledges the pressure to work constantly and the fear that taking time for herself will lead to more work piling up. Erika is also aware of her inner shadows, like the judge and the martyr, who constantly criticize and pressure her.
Troy encourages Erika to start with small increments of time for self-care, even just five minutes, and to fiercely protect that time as non-negotiable. The conversation ends with Erka acknowledging her need for this time and her commitment to incorporating it into her routine despite the discomfort it may initially bring.
Overall, the discussion highlights the challenges many individuals face in balancing work and self-care and the importance of permitting oneself to prioritize personal well-being.

John Faces His Shadows

In this emotionally charged episode, the host welcomes John, a man who has been grappling with a deep-rooted fear of losing everything, including his family, due to past choices he's made. John bravely takes listeners on his personal journey of confronting his shadows of shame and connecting with his wounds of rejection and abandonment from his childhood.
Through therapy and introspection, John begins to understand that his fear is tied to his past, and he's been projecting those old feelings onto his current life. As he faces his shadows, he starts to unravel the root of his fears and makes a profound connection with his new truth.
John learns to embrace self-compassion and forgiveness, recognizing that he is worthy of love and happiness despite his imperfections. This newfound understanding shifts how he views his relationships, particularly with his family, as he becomes more open and honest with them.
 
**Key Points:**
- John grapples with a deep-rooted fear of losing everything due to past choices.- He confronts his shadows of shame and connects with past wounds of rejection and abandonment.- Understanding the root of his fears helps him let go of unnecessary distress.- John embraces self-compassion, forgiveness, and his new truth.- His relationships, particularly with his family, strengthen as he becomes more open and honest.
 
Additional Music provided by Artist.io with artists: 
ElevenTales - Slow Tides
Michael Vignola - Calling for You
Katrina Stone - Digging Tunnels
Aija Alsina - Sunrise

My Shadows are Welcome Here

Ally has a kind, approachable demeanor. Using a client-centered approach, Ally fosters a safe environment to help clients decrease stress, release belief systems and trapped emotions that no longer serve them, and embrace their new truths.
Ally utilizes a holistic approach to wellness. She has over 14 years of experience as a social worker, educator, published author, energy healer, retreat facilitator, and certified life coach. For more detailed information about Ally's services, please visit her website, chronicwellness.info.

Kyle and His Core Beliefs

In this inspiring episode, we sit down with Kyle, a remarkable individual who has embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing after enduring years of bullying in high school. Kyle opens up about his experiences, discussing the emotional toll it took on him and the destructive coping mechanisms he developed as a result.
Kyle shares candidly about the ways he tried to numb the pain, revealing the detrimental impact it had not only on himself but also on the people he loves. Recognizing the need for change, he sought out healthier strategies to find greater peace, joy, and self-acceptance in his life.
One tool that proved instrumental in Kyle's healing process was the "Finding Peace" worksheet, a valuable resource he discovered along the way. He discusses how he utilized this worksheet to confront the deep-rooted issues stemming from his bullying experiences. Kyle explains how the worksheet helped him explore and process his emotions, offering a path toward healing and personal growth.
Throughout the interview, Kyle shares the pivotal moments and insights that led him on his transformative journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, vulnerability, and seeking support from loved ones and professionals.
Listeners will gain valuable insights from Kyle's story, as he imparts wisdom and practical advice for anyone facing similar challenges. His journey serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the power of self-acceptance.
Tune in to this empowering episode to hear Kyle's powerful story of overcoming bullying, finding inner peace, and embracing a life filled with joy and self-acceptance.
If you haven’t taken the Free Finding Peace Challenge, go to https://findingpeaceconsulting.com/five-day-challenge/
 
A special shout out to Artist.io and the amazing musicians who contributed to the soundtrack for this episode:
The Dream of LifeSémø, Yoed Nir
NarcissusMaya Belsitzman & Matan Ephrat
King's RequiemAlon Peretz
Mountain of Doomby Amit Weiner
By the Riverby Mattia Vlad Morleo
Stargazingby Livingrooms
Driving Homeby Noam Zaguri
  

Jenny and Her Shadows of Shame

Jenny Kempton is currently finishing her Master’s degree in Social Work at ASU and has her bachelor's in Child Development. She has facilitated several Finding Peace book groups and social groups and has worked with clients in her internships with this model. In all these capacities Jenny finds joy in being with others on their healing journeys. Her interests in the field are trauma work and expressive arts therapy. Jenny and her husband have four kids and enjoy going on adventures and watching movies together.
 
Join her as she faces her Shadows of Shame in this episode of the Finding Peace Podcast.
Thank you also to Artlist for all of the background music we used in this episode.  You can learn more about them here.
 
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Jules

In this Season of the Finding Peace Podcast, we are changing things up. During each episode, we will interview a courageous person who has signed up to be what has lovingly been called the Healing Seat.  Together, this person and I will walk through the Finding Peace Worksheet.  You can get your own copy of the Finding Peace Retreat when you sign up for the FREE Finding Peace Five-Day Challenge.  
 
In this episode, we listen to Jules share her story of rejection, betrayal, and abandonment and help her to begin changing the narrative around her Shadows of Shame®. 

Season 5 is coming

Stay tuned for the next season of the Finding Peace Podcast! Episodes launch in May 2023.

You are in the Perfect Place

Jonny Porter is the owner of These Guys, a marketing firm based in Arizona. In addition to running the firm, Jonny is also the host of a popular morning talk show on KBLU AM 560, where they cover politics, local issues and current events. Before starting These Guys, Jonny gained valuable marketing experience as an independent rapper navigating the music industry. Despite not having a formal degree in Marketing, Jonny learned the skills and knowledge necessary to succeed in this industry as a rapper. Jonny has been working in marketing for 15 years and is proud of the work his done to grow the business. In Jonny’s spare time, he enjoys reading and spending time on his mom’s little farm hidden in the woods of Payson, Arizona.