The Finding Peace Podcast
It isn’t the bad things that happened to us that is the problem... It’s what we end up believing about ourselves.
It isn’t the bad things that happened to us that is the problem... It’s what we end up believing about ourselves.
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Episodes

Mar 16, 2026
Mar 16, 2026
20 min
Season 8 of Finding Peace explores how controlling behaviors often develop as nervous-system coping strategies rooted in attachment wounds.
This episode reframes control as information, offers simple questions and a practical practice to trace behavior back to unmet needs, and invites compassion over shame as the path to healing and safety.
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Mar 9, 2026
Mar 9, 2026
13 min
Season 8 of Finding Peace offers short, trauma‑informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explores how childhood experiences can teach us to bury anger, the cost of suppressing emotions, and the difference between self‑control and self‑regulation.
He explains how anger is a signal that something matters, why regulation must come before responsibility, and offers gentle practices and questions to help you move from restraint to safety.
Choose compassion over control and remember you are worthy of love and belonging.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Mar 2, 2026
Mar 2, 2026
19 min
Troy L. Love uses a personal wisdom-teeth story to expose the ‘martyr’ voice that drives overgiving and self-sacrifice. He explains trauma-informed boundaries as nervous-system–aware limits that protect connection without abandoning yourself.
This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Feb 23, 2026
Beware the BRPEs: How Connection Restores Calm
Feb 23, 2026
Feb 23, 2026
15 min
Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. Hosted by Troy L. Love, this episode explains why arguments often aren’t about the issue at hand but about nervous system survival.
Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity.
Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Feb 16, 2026
Feb 16, 2026
9 min
Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and motivation fades.
Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected.
Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Feb 9, 2026
Feb 9, 2026
13 min
Host Troy L. Love explores how growing up with unpredictable anger trains the nervous system to stay on guard, and why hypervigilance is an adaptive response rather than a flaw.
He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Feb 1, 2026
Feb 1, 2026
13 min
Host Troy L. Love shares a personal teenage story to explain how our nervous system uses fight, flight, freeze, or fawn to survive. He reframes these reactions as learned survival strategies—not identities—and shows how shame loses power when we listen to our body with curiosity.
This short episode offers simple, trauma-informed tools—breathing, grounding, and self-compassion—to help you respond differently in moments of activation and move toward more peace, connection, and belonging.
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Jan 26, 2026
Jan 26, 2026
11 min
Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools to help you when emotions run high and your nervous system needs support.
In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?”
Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.
https://pod.link/findingpeacepodcast

Jan 19, 2026
Jan 19, 2026
9 min
Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in everyday life—short episodes to support you when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs grounding. Host Troy L. Love guides listeners toward more peace, joy, and connection, one moment at a time.In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

Jan 12, 2026
Jan 12, 2026
10 min
Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains how stress, trauma, and shame differ, using a real-life story to show how mislabeling feelings can keep our nervous system stuck.Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.


