The Finding Peace Podcast

Practicing Gratitude

It is that time of year when we have the opportunity to reflect on the blessings of our lives. But did you know that there are actually physical and mental benefits to practicing gratitude? In this episode, we review some of the research-backed reasons why practicing gratitude can be profoundly beneficial to your life. 
In this episode, I also mention Mr. Roger's Acceptance Speech at the Emmys for his Lifetime Achievement Award. You can watch his speech here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Upm9LnuCBUM
 And remember that A Year of Self-Love is now available to purchase. Pick up your copy here:https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ
 
 

Fifteen Minutes with Mr. Rogers

Have you ever been asked the question - if you could spend 15 minutes with any person who has ever lived, who would it be?  One of the names on my list is Mr. Rogers.  In this episode, I share with listeners the profound message Mr. Rogers actually taught me when I had my fifteen minutes with Mr. Rogers.
I also answer Megan's question about how to develop self love and self esteem. I refer to my new book, A Year of Self-Love, that came out today, November 19,2019 at a bookstore near you.  You can purchase your own copy here: https://amzn.to/2mNJTun
#thanksmisterrogers #Self-Love

I thought the Tenderfoot Race was an Initiation Ritual

In this episode I answer a question posed by Randall, on of our Finding Peace Retreat Alumni. His question was, "Why do so I tend to get stuck in reliving responses learned from the past where trauma was experienced and is often triggered?"
I explain the concept of wanting a do-over and how we tend to put ourselves in situations hoping for a different outcome.  
The Finding Peace Workbook helps us change these patterns in our lives. You can purchase a copy by going to https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Peace-Workbook-Rejection-Abandonment/dp/1546458727/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Troy+l+love&qid=1573068479&sr=8-1
You can also pre-order my new book, A Year of Self-Love by going here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

Horehound Candy, Watcher in the Woods, and Grandpa - Episode 13

In this episode, I reminince on the tradition of my grandpa handing out horehound candy and what it meant for a young boy who was scared of lots of things.  I also explore the four mantras of Thich Nhat Hanh that he shared with Oprah (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEUxFNkISnU)
A Year of Self Love will be coming out in November. You can preorder your copy here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

My First Anxiety Attack

I had never experienced a panic attack prior to that moment. When it hit, it rocked my world.  In this podcast, I share some tools to deal with anxiety.
The Finding Peace Workbook can be purchased here.
The Online Finding Peace Course can be purchased here. 
Pre-Order your copy of A Year of Self-Love here.

A Year of Self Love

I am excited to announce the upcoming new book, A Year of Self-Love.  In this episode, I share the epiphany I had over 25 years ago when I discovered why the old adage, "You can't love others unless you love yourself" was actually true.  As much as I had tried to believe otherwise, I began to see it from another perspective.
Also in this show, we explore three points of the Self-Compassion Moment.
1. Honoring our wounds and validating that they hurt.
2. Recognizing that we are not alone in our suffering and that there are others who can relate to what we are going through.
3. Encouraging ourselves to be kinder to ourselves during the process.
Preorder your copy of A Year of Self Love by clicking here: https://amzn.to/2lCfOxZ

Going Through the Door Episode 13

In this episode of the podcast, to moments of my life that had a tremendous. As I was listening to the podcast, I realized just how powerful the shadow of shame known as the Impotent One was present in my life. It is interesting to be able to look back and notice while there is another shadow of shame and to be able to recognize the power that that shame had on me. This awareness allows me to then identify what I can do to develop greater resilience to the shadows of shame as well as to recognize that I do not have to believe what the shadows tell me.
Can you recognize the shadows of shame that show up in your life? Can you also recognize the angels who were present in your life who whisper truths about your talents, capabilities, and potential? Who has touched your life and inspired you to dig deeper and step into your core truth?
 
 

My Dad Told Me that There Was Likely Someone Who Sings Better than Elvis

In this episode, we explore two Shadows of Shame that most people have a hard time admitting exist and don't realize just how powerful they can be in fueling disconnection.  
It is important to note that there is a difference between excelling in skill versus comparing our worth to someone else simply because they have a better mastery of any particular skill. 
How do the Shadows of Shame discussed in this episode show up in your life?  Drop us a line to let us know or to ask a question.  
To get a free copy of the Amazon Best-Selling Book, The Art of Peace, go to www.troyllove.com 

We were stuck on a cliff and going to die!

I am standing over a cliff looking straight down. The bottom is about 50 feet below me.  The ledge I am are standing on is about 15 feet wide.  There is water coming out the side of the rock and so the ground is covered with mushy moss.  Behind me, there is another cliff, the one I had just climbed down from.  It is about 10 feet high.  I am standing there with my friend Matt.  We are stuck. How in the world did we even get int his mess?
This episode explores what is not helpful when we find ourselves stuck on the cliffs of life and what we can do instead.  Troy explores the quote in As a Man Thinketh by James Allen, “A man only begins to be a man when he ceases to whine and revile and commences to search for the hidden justice which regulates his life. And he adapts his mind to that regulating factor, he ceases to accuse others as the cause of his condition, and builds himself up in strong and noble thoughts; ceases to kick against circumstances, but begins to use them as aids to his more rapid progress, and as a means of the hidden powers and possibilities within himself.”
Toni asks a question about how codependency is related to childhood trauma.
 
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Send your questions to troy@troyllove.com
 

I am Afraid of Heights

1: 26 I am standing on the top of the high dive?  In what scenario did I ever think this would be a good idea?
 
3:00 I am afraid of heights.
 
3:42 Someone sees me on the high dive
 
4:20 John Eldredge has said, “Even if he can’t quite put it into words, every man is haunted by the question, "Do I have what it takes?”
 
5:25  The shadows of shame show up.
 
6:36 The core emotion I faced standing on the diving board was fear.   
 
6:54 Faith is the antidote to fear.
 
8:00 - The Pain and Peace Conundrum
 
10:35 - Having people believe in us can strengthen our own faith
 
10:46 - Q&A
 
This podcast is sponsored by the Finding Peace Retreat.
The Finding Peace Retreat is a 4-day, intensive, experiential training based on the Amazon Best-Selling Book, Finding Peace.
 
The weekend creates a place of healing for individuals with past wounds of loss, rejection, neglect, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse who are looking for greater joy, happier relationships, and deeper fulfillment in their lives.
Whether you’re just becoming aware of how these wounds have impacted your life or are exhausted with the constant cycle of trying to do your best and still feeling like a failure, the Finding Peace Retreat will give you the skills to heal from the past, change the internal negative messages that drive feelings of shame, and develop mindful, compassionate habits leading to greater contentment and peace.
Discover your truth! Connect with your inner light that ignites your power, connection, and purpose.
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