The Finding Peace Podcast

How to Stay Connected During a Time of Social Isolation.

 
How  many emails have you received from banks, stores, insurance companies, etc. telling you how they are managing the current COVID 19 situation?
They are probably using words like…
Crisis….
Pandemic...
Critical...
Emergency...
Shortages…
Toilet paper...
 So stressful!  There is so much information being thrown around. It can be confusing.  One of the biggest messages that is proclaimed is social distancing. Ironically, research shows that isolation actually makes us a higher risk of susceptibility to infection, heart disease, stroke, even death.
In this podcast, I explore ways in which we can stay connected during this challenging time. I reference a study mentioned in Christian and Annmarie’s book,  Integrating the New Science of Love and a Spirituality of Peace.
I’d love to hear from you! What are you doing to stay connected to others? What has been hardest for you during this time?  What have you done to help yourself feel assurance that things are going to work out?
 
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The Consequences of Perfectionism

Thomas Curran from the University of Bath and Andrew Hill from York St. John University completed a meta-analysis on perfectionism. You can read their report here.   What they discovered is that there is a high correlation between perfectionism and the following issues: 
Depression, anxiety disorders,  eating disorders, anorexia, chronic fatigue syndrome, insomnia, gastrointestinal issues, chronic migraines, and an increase in suicide rates.
But a lot of people think that demanding perfection from themselves and others is a powerful motivator for achieving outcomes. Well, the research didn't back that up. Instead, it makes us perform less well and we wallow in shame as a result.  
In this episode, I break down the difference between striving for excellence (which can be positive) and trying to be perfect.  
 
You can listen to this and other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast at any of the links below:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242 https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUg https://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast
 
Have you heard about the Finding Peace Retreat?  
The Finding Peace Retreat is a 4-day, intensive, experiential training based on the Amazon Best-Selling Book, Finding Peace. The weekend creates a place of healing for individuals with past wounds of loss, rejection, neglect, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse who are looking for greater joy, happier relationships, and deeper fulfillment in their lives. You can learn more about it by clicking here. Spots are filling up fast and the retreat will not be offered again in 2020.
 
May you find peace always,
 
Troy
 

Let it Go

Have you struggled with moving forward from past experiences when others have triggered your attachment wounds? In this podcast, we talk about how to let painful things from the past go.  We explore the concepts of transference and projection that can keep us from seeing the truth of the situation.  
 
 
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How to Help Someone Who is Feeling Suicidal

In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Christopher Lee, a member of the Yuma Community Suicide Prevention Coalition.  He shares the importance of asking direct questions about suicide to someone who may be experiencing deep sadness, a recent loss, or going through a difficult time.
Here is a list of Warning Signs of Suicide:
Talking about wanting to die
Looking for a way to kill oneself
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no purpose
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
Feeling like being a burden to others
Increasing the use of drugs or alcohol
Acting anxious, agitated, or reckless,
Changes in sleep patterns
Withdrawing or isolating
Showing rage or talking about revenge
Extreme mood swings
Christopher shared the QPR model:
Question the person about suicide
Persuade the person to get help
Refer the person for help
During our interview, the following resources were shared:
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
or TEXT "Hello" to 741741
 
Yuma Community Suicide Prevention Coalition:
Facebook.com/YCSPC
Yuma Crisis Line: 1-866-495-6735
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, there is hope and there is help.  Use one of the resources above to get help!
 
 
You can listen to this or other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast by going to any of the following links: 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast

A Valentine's Day Self-Compassion Activity

In this episode, I share a simple exercise that Peter Levine developed to help people heal from trauma.  You can watch the video that I refer to here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdUnCj05RMs
The exercise that I share in this podcast is found in Peter's book, Healing Trauma. 
And of course, you can purchase your own copy of  Year of Self-Love here. 
You can listen to this and other episodes by going to any of the following links:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242 https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUg https://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast 

Understanding Dailies

In this episode, I explore the concept of dailies and how they are connected to self-compassion.  The categories for Dailies are: Physical, Social, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual.  The episode provides examples for each category as well as providing an easy way to track progress.
 
You can check out this and other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast by going here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast

The Five Stages of Change

In this episode, we explore the Five Stages of Change: Precontemplation, Preparation, Action, Maintainance, and Termination.  There are always things about ourselves that we want to improve, but sometimes we don't take action. We explore which stage of change you might be in and also discuss a tool to help leverage your willingness to take the next step. 
 
If you would like to learn more about the Finding Peace Retreat, where we help you develop a plan for lasting change, check out: https://www.findingpeaceacademy.com/finding-peace-retreat
And if you haven't picked up your copy of a Year of Self-Love, you can do so by going here: http://bit.ly/Yearofselflove 
 
To listen to any of the other episodes of the Finding Peace podcast, click on any of the links below.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast

An Introduction to Adverse Childhood Experiences

 In this episode, guest speaker Breanna Safsten, introduces us to adverse childhood experiences otherwise known as ACES. She explains that the research shows that individuals who have had adverse childhood experiences are at greater risk for health problems as they become older. We also discuss how resiliency can help reduce the risk of health problems.
Nadine Burke Harris also gave a Ted talk on aces and how it affects health throughout our lives. You can watch her talk here: https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime?language=en
If you would like to learn more about adverse childhood experiences, you can go to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Here you can find a copy of the aces quiz along with other statistics and resources. Https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/acestudy/index.html
Breanna also shared the resiliency assessment. A copy of that assessment is found here: http://www.traumainformedcareproject.org/resources/RESILIENCE_Questionnaire.pdf
if you would like to learn more information about the finding peace retreat, you can go here: https://www.findingpeaceacademy.com/finding-peace-retreat
 
You can listen to other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast
 

What the Missing Bread Taught Me about Love

In this episode, I share a story about being inflexible and how it could have had a negative effect on the relationship between me and my son. What kind of relationship do you want to have with the people that are closest to you? Have you considered the levels of their love and belonging tank and the competency and empowerment tank as you look at what you can do to help strengthen the relationship?
 
You can listen to other episodes of the Finding Peace Podcast here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast
 
 

Why Resolutions Fail

In this episode, I explore some of the reasons why New Year's resolutions do not work and what can be done about it. I also reference my new book, A Year of Self-Love, which you can purchase on Amazon or anywhere else books are sold. Check out A Year of Self-Love here: https://amzn.to/2mNJTun
 
You can listen to this and other episodes of the finding peace podcast at the links below:
 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1472700242https://open.spotify.com/show/0p6DK6fPPjHH0z911oCuUghttps://www.troyllove.com/thefindingpeacepodcast