The Finding Peace Podcast

When 'Yes' Hurts: Rewriting the Martyr's Story

Troy L. Love uses a personal wisdom-teeth story to expose the ‘martyr’ voice that drives overgiving and self-sacrifice. He explains trauma-informed boundaries as nervous-system–aware limits that protect connection without abandoning yourself.
 
This short episode offers practical reframes and simple phrases to challenge beliefs like “rest must be earned,” helping you set limits that honor your capacity, worth, and relationships.
 
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Beware the BRPEs: How Connection Restores Calm

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and relationships feel heavy. Hosted by Troy L. Love, this episode explains why arguments often aren’t about the issue at hand but about nervous system survival.
Using the metaphor of relationship "BRPEx"—Blame, Rescue, Protest, Escape—Troy shows how fight-or-flight responses shut down thinking and why logic doesn’t land when safety is gone. He teaches simple steps to pause, name emotions, empathize, and regulate so connection can restore clarity.
Choose connection first, slow the spiral, and learn how safety brings the thinking brain back online.
 
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When ‘Laziness’ Is Survival: The Hidden Power of Freezing

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools to help when emotions run high and motivation fades.
Troy L. Love explains how chronic procrastination and emotional flatness can be nervous-system protection—called freezing—not laziness, and invites listeners to reframe self-judgment into curiosity about what needs are being protected.
Learn simple steps to honor stillness, tend attachment wounds, and create safety so you can move forward with more peace and connection.
 
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When Safety Feels Uncertain: Understanding Hypervigilance

Host Troy L. Love explores how growing up with unpredictable anger trains the nervous system to stay on guard, and why hypervigilance is an adaptive response rather than a flaw.
He offers a simple, trauma-informed grounding exercise (5-4-3-2-1) and compassionate reframing to help the body learn to relax safely and find more peace, joy, and connection.
 
 
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Survival, Not Shame: Reframing Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn

Host Troy L. Love shares a personal teenage story to explain how our nervous system uses fight, flight, freeze, or fawn to survive. He reframes these reactions as learned survival strategies—not identities—and shows how shame loses power when we listen to our body with curiosity.
This short episode offers simple, trauma-informed tools—breathing, grounding, and self-compassion—to help you respond differently in moments of activation and move toward more peace, connection, and belonging.
 
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Don't Tell Me to Calm Down: Why Calm Isn't a Command

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools to help you when emotions run high and your nervous system needs support.
In this episode, Troy L. Love explains why “calm down” often backfires, how shame and threat escalate activation, and invites a simple replacement: ask, “What would help my system feel 5% safer right now?”
Learn practical, relational strategies—breath, grounding, naming feelings, reaching out—that invite safety, connection, and the eventual emergence of calm.
 
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Inside Your Window of Tolerance: Choose Calm, Not Control

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in everyday life—short episodes to support you when emotions run high, relationships feel heavy, or your nervous system needs grounding. Host Troy L. Love guides listeners toward more peace, joy, and connection, one moment at a time.In this episode we explore the "window of tolerance": the zone where the nervous system can handle life without becoming overwhelmed. Learn how to notice signs of going above (anxiety, panic, reactivity) or below (numbness, shutdown), why the body is always asking "Am I safe?", and how simple curiosity and awareness can widen your window, build capacity, and help you return to connection with kindness.

When Stress Isn't Just Stress: Spotting Trauma and Shame

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast offers short, trauma-informed tools for everyday life. In this episode, Troy L. Love explains how stress, trauma, and shame differ, using a real-life story to show how mislabeling feelings can keep our nervous system stuck.Learn how to recognize the "judge" of shame, ask what wound is being triggered, and use simple practices—naming shame and refusing to honor it—to begin healing and reclaim a sense of safety, worth, and belonging.

Safety First: Why Insight Alone Won't Heal

Season 8 of the Finding Peace Podcast focuses on practical, trauma-informed tools to calm the nervous system and create real change. Troy L. Love explains why insight alone often isn’t enough — safety must come first so new learning can stick.This episode offers a simple, body-first approach and a micro-practice: when you notice a repetitive pattern, ask, “What might my nervous system be trying to protect me from right now?” The episode guides listeners toward building safety, softening shame, and returning to curiosity and connection.

Welcome to Season 8

Welcome back to the Finding Peace Podcast—and welcome to a new season.
If you’ve been walking alongside us for a while, thank you. Thank you for listening, for doing the work, and for being willing to sit with conversations that are meaningful, vulnerable, and sometimes uncomfortable.
Last season, we moved slowly and intentionally through the Finding Peace Worksheet, exploring awareness, patterns, attachment, and the wounds that often keep us stuck. That work still matters, and there’s no rush to complete it. Healing is not a race.
This season, we’re shifting gears.
These episodes are shorter—about 10 to 15 minutes—and focused on practical, trauma-informed tools you can use in your real, everyday life. Each episode introduces one core idea, practice, or tool you can try immediately. Some will help regulate your nervous system. Some will support healthier responses in relationships. Some will help you get out of your head and back into your body. Others will help you reconnect with the parts of you that feel exhausted, guarded, or quietly longing for more.
The intention is simple:Not just insight—but integration.
You don’t need to overhaul your life.You don’t need to become someone else.You don’t need to be fully healed to experience peace.
What you do need are small moments of intention, consistency, and compassion—right in the middle of life as it is.
Whether you’re listening between sessions, on a walk, during a commute, or in a rare quiet moment that finally belongs to you, this season is designed to meet you where you are.
Let’s get practical.Let’s get honest.And let’s keep finding peace—together